I want to share some very exciting news with you!! After graduating with two bachelor’s degrees in May and tirelessly applying to jobs all summer, I have accepted an entry level job in the corporate fashion industry and am moving to Columbus, Ohio!
I am so very excited and I cannot wait to begin this new journey. I hope you’ll stay with me as I officially navigate the world of adulthood. I want to thank all my followers, whoever you are, know that I’m thankful for you reading about my basic life week after week. If you have any advice, or tips for living in Columbus, I’d love to hear it in the comment section below!
As I get ready to move to a new home in a new state, I can’t help but want to buy all new decor and things to deck out my new place. While I’m still trying to pinpoint what bedding to buy (I’m going with a duvet, so fancy, amiright?!), I have found a few other things that I’m totally dreaming about for my new apartment.
Does anyone else watch Pioneer Woman on FoodNetwork?! Well if you don’t know Ree, she’s a city girl who ended up marrying a farmer and she cooks hearty meals for her family out on the farm. She’s sweet and honest and I was so excited to see she came out with a home line at WalMart. This mug set is only $12 and I could totally see myself sipping hot coffee from these mugs. Plus the color options are great!
SO cute! I love to have pictures of friends and family sitting around, especially in a new place. This will go well sitting on a bookshelf or desk to display the beautiful faces of my beautiful friends.
Reader, are you a twenty something who has always wished for a handbook to the world of adulthood? Or maybe you are past the twenties, still wishing you had a guidebook to flip through when going about your life?
Well, I’ve found that guidebook to being an adult, thank God that someone finally wrote it.
Adulting: How to Become A Grown-Up in 468 Easy(ish) Steps is a guide to navigating the world of being an adult. Kelly Williams Brown, a true hero of our generation, articulately describes dozens of topics, including finances, relationships, and jobs, step by step in one book that you can keep on your shelf for years to check for reference. She has many wonderful ideas about these topics, some things that I knew, some that I had never even thought of. It’s a light read and has some humor dabbled throughout making it not only helpful, but also an overall good read. She also touches on a few behavioral things, like respect and how to be just a generally nice to be around human. I liked the chapter when she made the reader self-actualize and realize they were not a ‘special snowflake.’
I read it and reflected back on a few times in college when it would have been useful to have. For instance, when I was touring apartments to live in, I wish I had known to check the water pressure, or bring along my cell phone charger to check outlets. Right?!
Now, Reader, you may have known to do those things, but as a young twenty-something, the thought never even crossed my mind. I also gave the book as a present to my best friend, who is moving to another town to begin her career. She has informed me that it was the best gift ever and she felt the need to put Post-It’s on several pages to mark for later reference.
Adulting is a book for yourself, for your friends, for your relatives, or anyone who hasn’t the slightest clue how to be an adult. I plan on giving it as a gift for the next few friend’s birthdays because I want them to have the guidance that nobody even knew was out there.
Reader, would you read Adulting? Or have you already read it and received the wonderful guidance through adulthood? Let me know in the comments!
You did it! You made it through those four(+) years that are chalk full of highs and lows. You walked off the stage, diploma in hand, smile on your face. You just hung up your polyester gown and stored away that precious cap. So, now what? If you’re anything like me, these are great ways to spend your time when you’ve graduated and hit a dead end because no ones cares that you need a job!
All those hours of precious sleep you missed out on in college? Don’t worry, laying in bed doing absolutely nothing allows for you to be completely well rested… so that you can keep doing nothing.
That queue that’s been building for years as you had to write papers and study for exams? Pshh, say goodbye to that and hello to the longest binge watching marathon in the history of the world. Do I get paid if I make it into Guinness?
3. Read, learn a new language, anything using your brain
Because laying around and doing absolutely nothing isn’t good for your brain (no, literally, my brain hurts from not being stimulated) so keep trying different mundane things to keep the blood flowing to your noggin. Try a trip to the library, or making an account on Duolingo. Anything helps.
4. Contemplate every decision you’ve ever made.
1 pinch of ‘why did I choose to go to college for major XYZ?‘
2 cups of ‘where the hell am I going with my life?‘
1/2 tsp of ‘why wasn’t I in club ABC and why didn’t I work three more months that one summer at GHI?!”
A dash of salt.
Combine all ingredients in a bed that hasn’t been made in a week, with a person who probably hasn’t showered in even longer.
*Serve best with a heaping plate of self loathing.
5. Refresh, Refresh, Refresh
Because maybe, just maybe, there’s a new posing on Indeed.com that I missed?!
6. Use those two bachelor’s degrees to wipe up all your tears.
….because really, what other use is there for them?
I read a letter today that was addressed to high school grads who would be entering college. It read, “Ready or not! You are gonna meet people unlike anyone you’ve ever met before from places you have never been before and some of these complete strangers will become fast friends. One might just become your best friend.”
I was lucky to find two strangers. Two random people living a life parallel to mine for 18 years and I had no idea. But God brought us together because he knew we each had something to teach each other. Many things, dozen of things I have learned from you both. I certainly would not be who I am today, without both of you influencing my life.
I wish that we could forever be just a wall apart. I wish that you’ll always come into my room and plop down on my bed. I don’t know why you both like my bed so much, but I would let you take naps in it everyday and sleep in it every night if it meant we could still be together forever. I would never touch the thermostat again, leaving it forever at 86 degrees if we didn’t have to leave each other in five days. I don’t want to drink tea alone or watch the Kardashians alone. I want my two best friends right next to me.
What do I do without you next to me?
I kept reading the letter to the high school seniors, hoping the author told them the secret about the end of college. The secret to leaving these strangers. He didn’t mention it, I think, because you aren’t supposed to leave them. While they might not be right next to you, they will be with you forever in your heart.
You will be forever with me, in my heart. You’re part of who I am, the person I am today has pieces of you and you have pieces of me. We will forever be connected because of these pieces. And no matter where we go in life, these pieces from each other will always be with us, reminding us of one another. Then we’ll call, and we’ll write. We’ll make plans to visit. You can call me after a bad day and I’ll call you when I see a tabloid at the store with a new photo of Bruce.
And we’ll make it. Life is scary and exciting and terrifying and thrilling and it’s meant to be shared with people you love. With people who are forever in your heart. Life will go on and so will we.
Together or not, we’ll always be friends and I will forever cherish every moment we had in these last four years. I used to believe in that quote, “Don’t say goodbye, because goodbye means forever.” I don’t anymore. You see, I want to say goodbye because you know what comes after a goodbye? A hello, when you see each other again.
I’ve been doing some self reflecting about the past year, and I have to say it was a year I didn’t see coming. But in the same breath, the writing was on the wall and perhaps I had ignored it. Inevitable things happened as I figured they would. There were ups and downs, days I cried and days I couldn’t stop laughing. The sad thing of this year was that it was my last safe year. A year that I knew where I was going to be, I knew what I was doing, and that I’d be okay. As for 2015? Well, I’m graduating college, so there’s that big question mark. Will I get a job? Will I move out of my parent’s house officially? Will I ever be able to afford the ‘everything is cute & mismatched but it incidentally all looks great together‘ apartment that I see in my head upon entering any TJ Maxx (that’s my biggest dream of the moment… like, next to landing a cool job)?
I try not to stress and plan for the future. In the past, I have and things have always seemed to work out. Call it karma, God’s plan or what you will but I firmly believe that everything will be alright. Sure, there will sucky days that I’ll want to throw in the towel but there will also be days that I’ll want to last forever. Every year, there’s good and bad mixed with lessons and memories. I only hope to keep learning and living, and especially to keep laughing.
At the beginning of 2014, I decided to make a list of goals, not resolutions. I don’t necessary believe in resolutions because people always say them and never follow through. Instead, I thought of 5 goals that I had hoped for myself. Here they are in all their glory….
1. For one thing, I think I did smile more. Or I found more moments to be happy. Or I just watched more comedy sitcoms on Netflix (Mindy Project FTW).
2. I definitely read more. Reader, can you believe I didn’t read a single Nicholas Spark’s novel this year?! I found myself reading a lot more inspirational reading this year, books that encourage me to take hold of life. Remember my post on books I’d like to read over break? I’ve just finished tiny beautiful things by Cheryl Strayed, and I need you to go out and find it right now, Reader. Please, do it for me, for you and for your life. It’s beyond perfect.
3. I DID IT, READER. I stopped looking for love around every corner I turned. I’m learning to fall in love with myself and to not sit around waiting for Prince Charming; however, I could look to God more…
4 & 5. I improved on these ends but not as much as I’d like to.
So, I’d have to say, it’s been a pretty great year. As it becomes 2015 and I turn 22, I only hope I can fall in love with life more. Hopefully, I’ll be back in a year to tell you the answer to all my unanswered questions concerning the future. Reader, I hope your year was just as amazing; if not, I pray this year is better for you. Check back soon for my 2015 goals!